My life would suck without you

It's valentine's Day so on this treacle drench occasion I wanted to tell you about my soulmate. What's that the picture to your left is not a picture of my husband and I? Craziness you say. I say, no seriously, that's my soulmate.

I want to get something out in the open, John is not my soulmate, nor is he my best friend. John and I just don't operate like that. He is the boy I love and the boy I married and the boy I will spend the rest of forever with but he's not my soulmate. Jamie is.

Interestingly enough, I've known Jamie just as long as I've known John. I met them at the same time. The same day actually. Jamie and I had an instant connection (unlike John and I.) We met and I felt like I'd known her since I was a fetus. She reminded me of all the "best friends" I had when I was growning up, she was all of them rolled into one. She is the first one to back me up even when I'm dead wrong. Her husband is fully aware that having a relationship with her means having a relationship with me. I'm genuinely convinced we were some how seperated at birth.

Before we met I emailed Jamie. She was looking to start a rugby club at our University. I read about it in the student paper. I emailed her. She emailed me. And that was that. Didn't think about it again until WEEKS after we met we put two and two together. We're not the brightest sometimes. We bonded over rugby and Harry Potter.

We've been friends almost 8 years but it honestly feels like a lifetime. We've been there for everything. She was in my wedding, she saw my first roller derby bout (though I would rather forget it), she's helped me cope with the loss of my grandfather and she even went so far as to go with me to my first Pap test (yes, that's how much she cares about me.) I have trouble describing how much I care about her and the role she plays in my life because I feel like some how my words won't do it justice. When that happens I always default to the lines from my favourite poem by Pablo Neruda, "I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;so I love you because I know no other way."

She is the calm to my storm in a lot of ways. In our relationship she's the cute practical flats and I'm the totally impractical 3 inch heel. Yes, Jamie I just compared our relationship to shoes (I can predict you're not surprised.) She accepts that I'm a geek (the day before she gave birth to my godson I told her, may the force be with you) and that I'm overconfident for my own good sometimes. I accept that she obsessively vaccums and that she's a homebody.

We were meant to be.


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