Thursday, June 27, 2013

How an email changed our lives AKA why we don't long term plan anymore


John and Tatiana circa July 2011. At the family send off at my Aunt place

As free-spirited as John and I are we have done a few things by the book.

We met.
Finished University
Got married
Got grown up jobs
Didn't have pizza and beer for dinner as often
Occasionally ate salads

You know all the grown up well thought out stuff that is suppose to make us more productive members of society.

2 years ago we had a plan in the works. A good plan. A decent plan. A plan that we were pretty happy with. It allowed us some wiggle room and it allowed for us to get what we wanted out of life.

Here was the plan:

- I was going to quit my job and go back to school for an after degree in Communications. It was a very specific and intensive program. It would be a year and it was really designed for people who had spent time doing Comm work but didn't have that piece of paper so they could go after Comm jobs. Also there was a serious non-profit element to it. Most excellent.
- John was going to continue where he was for another year. He was basically going to swallow his pride and put up with it until the following summer.
- After that year we were going to head out to the east coast and house sit for my parents in Newfoundland while they were in Europe for my dads sabbatical. We were going to use that time to save money, maybe have John start his masters and just be out east for a while.

Then John got an email. June 30, 2011 John got the email that caused our plan to explode and for our lives to be turned upside down and basically change everything. John got the job in Switzerland.

The day before that email showed up I renewed our lease. I renewed our car insurance for another year. I had just started the application process for my program.

It's not like we didn't know that COULD happen. It was in the back of our heads that it could. But come on we're semi-rational people, what are the odds of him getting a job offer from a place in Switzerland while we're living in Manitoba. I mean really? But I guess the odds were in our favour.

Not only did this email cause us to relocate and change our lives as we know it. It also has caused us to change how we approach life from here on out. When your life is changed with a 6 AM email you tend to not consider things on the long term any more.

"When are you coming home for your next visit?"
"I don't know."

"Where are you going on your next trip?"
"I don't know."

"When you come home are you going to settle in Manitoba?"
"I don't know."

"When are you coming home for good?"
"I don't know."

"How long will you be in Europe?"
"I don't know."

"When will you know?"
"No idea."

Here's the thing, as much as the people who love us kind of hate it, we have embraced the "I don't know" atmosphere that has settled over our lives. Sure it can be frustrating when you realize you're in a constant state of limbo. But that limbo thing makes you crazy flexible.

This whole "I don't know" thing is why we do things spur of the moment now. It's why little discussion goes into the things we do. Why waste time discussing things when you could be doing things? It's why when John comes home and says he might be going to some random country again I don't bat an eye any more. It's why when I tell John I'm applying for press trips and pitching story ideas that he doesn't really react in any other way other than, "good for you." It's why when a flight to Rome is dirt cheap we take it and leave 4 days later. It's why we don't make long term plans. We wasted to much time early in our marriage discussing, considering, planning, figuring out, over-thinking. We could have been having adventures but we were to busy talking about having adventures.

And now we've been given a gift of just doing things because we can and because we don't know how long we'll have that opportunity to do it. We have NO IDEA where we're going but that's pretty okay we us.

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