Friday, July 15, 2011

To the boy I married

Dear Mr. Hammell,

This morning we celebrated the minor accomplishment of surviving 5 years of marriage with a high five. I think this speaks VOLUMES about our relationship. We take our marriage seriously but we don't take each other seriously. If we did...one of us would have turned up maimed or dead by now.

Dude....that's effing teamwork!!

I have to say when I was getting ready to walk down the aisle with you this time 5 years ago I NEVER would have imagined that five years later we would be heading off on a Swiss adventure. I don't think anyone would have imagined it. Further to that, if someone had told us one day you would get a job with the branch of the UN and we would be living in Switzerland as of July 30th we would have BOTH lauged in that person face.

5 years ago we promised the following in front of all those we hold near and dear.

On this special day, I affirm to you in the presence of God and all these witnesses my sacred promise to stay by your side as your wife

There is no place I would rather be. It hasn't been easy. It's not ever going to be easy. But some days will be easier than others.

to love you without reservation,

You're not a hard person to love. You're a hard person to like sometimes but loving you is easy. So very very easy.

comfort you in times of distress,

We've seen our share of distress in the last 5 years. But we managed to come out on the other side relatively unharmed. I will say you're not an easy person to comfort. You keep it all balled up inside. And sometimes you won't let me comfort only because you're so use to dealing with things on your own. However, you are pretty good at the whole comforting thing.

encourage you to achieve all of your goals,

The mutual encouragement that happens in our relationship is staggering to me sometimes. We both are big dreamers but we both also have the drive to see them through. But the only way we are able to even start to achieve our goals is because of the encouragement we receive. One of the best things I have ever heard you say is, "Go Jambuster." It makes me emotional to think about. You have an occasional hate of "the derby" but you put that aside and cheer for me. When you decided to reward your going to the gym with a tattoo I sat with you the whole 4 hour session. Just so you would have someone to make small talk with.

laugh with you

Wow do we laugh. We laugh all the time. At ourselves, at each other, at others. One of the things that makes us who we are is the sheer amount of laughter in our relationship. Sure sometimes its evil genius laughter but what ever.

and cry with you,

I cry a lot (although apparently I didn't cry enough at our wedding) and you have cried a total of twice and once was getting misty eyed during Schindlers List. The other time was out of frustration with our relationship. You've made it okay to be vulnerable and I like that.

grow with you in mind and spirit,

You once told me that one of the most attrative things about me was the fact that I am smart. But also willing to learn. We are both so hungry for knowledge it's almost obnoxious. We just crave learning. But we also both crave personal growth. If we're not growing and changing as people that means we're not growing and changing as a couple.

always be open and honest with you,

This is the foundation of our relationship. We are open and honest about everything...well except one thing. I still won't let you see me throw up. Just can't do it.

and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

Cherish, adore, love, like, put up with.....for the rest of forever.


So Johnathan....now what? Well, we're moving, we're having to depend on each other more than we have ever needed to before. We're going on an adventure beyond our wildest imaginations and we're going to do it with flair, style, a healthy dose of cynisim and laughter.

Here's to five more years, more adventures and to loving each other because we know no other way.

Love,

Tatiana
the growly non-morning person you married

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